Monday, January 12, 2009

I am sorry I have not been blogging. I just don't really have much to blog about. Each day is much the same as the one before. Work, eat, sleep, repeat. Terrell did say something yesterday that was telling though, We were watching a movie about Doris Duke. She had just given birth to a 3 pound premature baby girl, the doctor comes in and says I am sorry your baby died. OF course Doris Duke is crying and upset. T asked why she was crying. I told him and then he said well why doesn't she just have another one? My mouth dropped. At 5 years old already dismissing her pain. As a IF survivor it his comment made me cringe. We talked about how each life is special and that a Mommy and Daddy love all of there children.

Speaking of loving our children the jealousy has finally surfaced. T is down in the dumps about not always being first and how everyone loves Jayden more. We are working on it.

5 comments:

Rachel said...

Oh, the joys of childhoold logic. I went through a lot of that with my 10 year old a few years ago when I had my miscarriages. Luckily, empathy does grow with the child (in most cases).

kristi said...

That sounds like a typical little boy response to me!

Sarah said...

considering there are plenty of grown adults who don't know better than to say "well you can always have another" when someone miscarries i think it's very reasonable that a kid his age doesn't understand. i had to explain this to my 7 year old niece recently. i reminded her of her dog who died a few years ago and how even though she loves her new dog she still feels sad when she thinks of the dog who died and that seemed to help her understand. kids their age don't really get what death is. i think it's actually nice not having to understand so much about loss and pain in childhood, there is plenty of time for that, but sounds like you're doing a great job helping him to grow into a sensitive little person.

Delenn said...

Glad that everyone is feeling better.

Monogram Queen said...

Poor little guy, he'll learn and i'm sure he didn't mean to be so dismissive, to him it's probably like buying a new car if you lose one. Seriously!