3 posts in one day

Well I really have been trying on the marriage front. I had a nice rational conversation with Tony about thinking about moving. I said and I quote" sometimes you need to do what is best for your family", "you will make friends no matter where we live", " your wife is not happy here does that count for anything?" I said that and told him to think on it today I hear he has not only thought about it but done comparisons and we would be to poor somewhere else. Wow he got all that from the fact that he works about 15 hours overtime a week and he could not make that much elsewhere. I suggested a second job and he said no way. I guess there really is no point in pursuing it any future. He still says we should have discussed moving before we got married. Does anyone else find that argument asinine? Hello we got married 7½ years ago. I had no idea Iwouldd be back in contact with my family and want to be closer to my sister. I really feel like my whole world is falling apart. I am not happy here and the man who says he loves me doesn't seem to care very much. Now the question is what do I do? It is hard to see my marriage falling apart around me. I feel like there is not a whole lot I can do either I have tried compromises, maybe moving somewhere else but not right close to Zephra but that is a no go too. He says he is never leaving Massachusetts. When is it ok to put my happiness before my marriage? How do I go and take T from his daddy? Is that even fair to do? I am just so hurt and confused right now and I am trying very hard to make rational choices in my life. I don't want to do anything spur of the moment. I am getting with the health insurance in the morning and am going to figure out what they cover for mental health counseling.